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Or am I just not cut out for this? But "show me" is not how a couple incorporates BDSM into their sex life.
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Maybe he's having a hard time articulating his desires because he's shy, or maybe he's insecure, or maybe he mistakenly believes that sex—even logistically complicated sex—should just "happen naturally. A lot Horny 20yo looking for Paterson bj be assumed during a strictly vanilla sexual encounter—far too much is assumed, far too often—but what goes on during a sexual encounter involving BDSM has to be specifically and explicitly negotiated.
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Instead of pretending that you're a menacing and experienced dom, incorporate what's really going on—your boyfriend is so submissive that he's submitting to his submissive girlfriend, and how perverted is that? Then your unfamiliarity with the dom role becomes something you're bringing to the scene, NQAD, not something that's causing you to fail at it.
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